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August 6, 2014 by Aaron Tress

Sample Voir Dire Questions and Sample Jury Charge – Custody

The McNamara Law Firm has recently tried two relocation cases representing the non-custodial parent. In these cases, the custodial parents remarried and sought to modify the geographical restriction so they could move with their children to live with their new partners. Our office relied on the latest social science to persuade the court not to lift the geographical restriction. In both relocation cases, the jury denied the custodial parent’s petition to lift the geographical restriction.

This post will be broken into two parts. The first part will discuss the latest social science regarding the geographical restriction. The second part will look at important segments of the trial process in relocation cases: voir dire and the jury charge.

Today’s Social Science

In a paper presented at a National Family Law Conference, the authors explained that the social science of a couple decades ago taught that “a child’s best interests is closely linked to the best interests of the custodial parent.” (“Relocation: Long Distance Families,” page 5.) This widespread belief resulted in many custodial parents moving to raise their children a long distance from the non-custodial parent. In contrast, the social science of today concludes that “having two parents in close proximity is better for children regardless of other factors” (Id., page 11). Texas codified this this modern approach: “The public policy of this state is to assure that children will have frequent and continuing contact with parents who have shown the ability to act in the best interest of the child.” Texas law accomplishes this goal by making “joint custody” the default parenting designation and by setting and enforcing a geographical restriction against the custodial parent.

The social science of a couple decades ago is credited to Judith Wallerstein. (See her article published in Family Law Quarterly, “To Move or Not to Move: Psychological and Legal Considerations in the Relocation of Children Following Divorce.”) “Wallerstein claimed that there was no evidence that frequency of visiting or amount of time spent with the non-custodial parent over the child’s entire growing-up years was significantly related to good outcome in the child or adolescent.” Rather, “the children’s relationship with only one parent was central to their welfare.” (Richard Warshak, “Social Science and Children’s Best Interests in Relocation Cases: Burgess Revisited,” Family Law Quarterly.) The first study contradicting the Wallerstein position came from Arizona State University in a 2003 article titled “Relocation of Children After Divorce and Children’s Best Interests: New Evidence and Legal Considerations.” The study showed that college students with divorced parents living a long distance away were “significantly” disadvantaged compare to college students with divorced parents who lived near each other.

Since 2003, the research supporting a child’s need for both parents has grown. Dr. Richard Warshak, one of Bill’s favorite authorities researching family law issues, recently co-authored an amicus brief to the Supreme Court of California. Below are some of the notable conclusions Warshak and the new social science make.

At five years [the] positive contribution of the father’s role emerged with clarity. Specifically, good father-child relationships appeared linked to high self-esteem and the absence of depression in children of both sexes and at all ages. We were interested to find this significant link in both sexes up to and including those in the thirteen-to-twenty-four age group. (page 7)

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It is noteworthy that the divorce appeared not to diminish the importance of the psychological link between father and child. This connection was especially obvious at the five-year mark in those children who were between nine and twelve, or entering adolescence. Children in this age group took intense pleasure in the visiting and when they were not visited they grieved. It seemed possible, in fact, that in this nine-to-twelve-year-old group the visiting father might sustain a youngster even in the care of a disorganized mother. (pages 7-8)

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Aside from pleas to reunite their parents, the most pressing demand children brought to counseling was for more visiting. . . . The intense longing for greater contact persisted undiminished over many years, long after the divorce was accepted as an unalterable fact of life. (page 9)

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It is not contact, per se, that is important, but rather other dimensions of involvement that go along with contact that are beneficial to children’s lives. Indeed, contact may be a mixed blessing if the contact is enough to tantalize children but not enough to satisfy. . . . Nonresidential parents who maintain parental roles (providing guidance, discipline, supervision, and educational assistance) may affect their children more profoundly than those who are limited to functioning as occasional visiting companions. (pages 15-16)

Hire an Expert

To get the above social science evidence before the jury or judge, you should hire an expert witness to educate the jury or judge about what is in the best interest of the child.

Jury Questions and Sample Jury Charge

Here is an outline of juror questions that Bill uses in relocation cases.

“Never leave a lawyer on your jury.” –Bill’s practice tip in jury selection

Here is a sample jury charge for a relocation case.

Filed Under: Children, Custody, Divorce Tagged With: child's best interest, custodial parent, geographical restriction, Judith Wallerstein, Juror Questions, Jury Charge, non-custodial parent, Relocation case, Richard Warshak, social science, Voir Dire Questions

May 2, 2014 by Aaron Tress

The Marital Estate: Community Debts

In Texas, “Community Debts” Do Not Exist

Property acquired during marriage is generally community property. However, debts acquired during the marriage are not community debts. In fact, “community debts” do not even exist in Texas. Tedder v. Gardner Aldrich, LLP, 421 S.W.3d 651, 654 (Tex. 2013), reh’g denied (Dec. 13, 2013). According to the Texas Supreme Court, the idea of a “community debt” is problematic because courts can mistakenly use it to assign liability to a spouse who did not incur the debt. Id. In Texas, spouses cannot be jointly liable for a debt under a community property theory. Id.

The Spouse Who Incurs The Debt Is Liable For The Debt

Rodgers v. Rodgers, 07-12-00282-CV (Tex. App.—Amarillo Apr. 17, 2014, no. pet. h.) illustrates this point.

When Kenneth and Mary were married, Kenneth took out a loan to buy tools. While their divorce was pending, however, Mary sold the tools but did not use the money to pay off the debt. In the Final Decree of Divorce, the trial court assigned the debt solely to Kenneth.

The Amarillo Appellate Court affirmed, reasoning that (1) the trial court had not made any findings of fact and conclusions of law, and (2) the trial court made its ruling in light of a myriad of other factors.

Filed Under: Amarillo Appellate Decisions, Divorce Tagged With: community debt, community property, dividing debts in divorce

March 28, 2014 by Aaron Tress

Divorce Myth: Courts Often Do Not Divide Property 50/50

One Shot at a “Just and Right” Division of Community Property

Laypersons often believe that a court will divide the marital estate 50/50. However, courts often do not divide marital property equally. One prominent Texas case illustrates this point. In 1981, the Texas Supreme Court heard the Murff case. Murff v. Murff, 615 S.W.2d 696 (Tex. 1981). In Murff, the appellate court overturned the trial court’s division of the marital estate. The Supreme Court, in turn, reversed the appellate court’s ruling and affirmed the trial court’s division of the martial estate:
“The trial court in a divorce case has the opportunity to observe the parties on the witness stand, determine their credibility, evaluate their needs and potentials, both social and economic. As the trier of fact, the court is empowered to use its legal knowledge and its human understanding and experience. Although many divorce cases have similarities, no two of them are exactly alike. Mathematical precision in dividing property in a divorce is usually not possible. Wide latitude and discretion rests in these trial courts and that discretion should only be disturbed in the case of clear abuse.”
Because trial courts have such wide discretion, trial court rulings are usually not overturned in family law matters. One important lesson, then, is to secure the desired results at the trial court level.

Filed Under: Divorce Tagged With: 50/50 split, 615 S.W.2d 696, community estate, Dividing of Community Property, family law, Just and Right, marital propety, Murff v. Murff, trial court discretion

March 7, 2014 by Aaron Tress

Special Appearances: Personal Jurisdiction in Divorce

The question of jurisdiction may arise when divorcing spouses live in different states. If one spouse does not want the divorce proceedings to take place in Texas, she may challenge Texas’ jurisdiction under section 120A of the Texas Rules of Civil Procedure. If the court denies the motion for special appearance, then the judge will sign an Order Overruling Plea to the Jurisdiction.

Filed Under: Divorce Tagged With: divorce, order overruling objection to jurisdiction, Personal Jurisdiction, Special Appearance

December 13, 2013 by Aaron Tress

Exercises for Divorcing Parents

The Cooperative Parenting Institute designs material for divorcing parents. The following two exercises are taken from their workbook “Cooperative Parenting and Divorce: A Parent Guide to Effective Co-Parenting.”

 

Love Isn’t Easy . . . How Far Will You Go?

 Directions: Slowly read each question asking yourself, “How far will I go?” Answer honestly. You will notice that the first five questions present easier decisions because they indicate eminent physical danger while the last five present emotional danger. Are you willing to risk placing your child in danger of any kind?

 

  1. Would you jump into an ice-cold stream to save your child from drowning?
  2. Would you give up one of your kidneys if it would save your child’s life?
  3. Would you sell all your worldly possessions for costly life-saving surgery for your child?
  4. Would you change your diet if your child’s doctor diagnosed your child with diabetes?
  5. Would you give up smoking if your child had a high risk of lung disease or asthma?
  6. Would you forgive your child’s other parent to help your child develop a healthy self-esteem?
  7. Would you let go of the past to give your child a positive future?
  8. Would you let go of bitterness/anger if your child developed anxiety symptoms?
  9. Would you use impulse control if it would teach your child to think before he acted?
  10. Would you give up being right so your child wouldn’t feel caught in the middle?

 


Divorce Rules

 Directions: Post these rules on your refrigerator as a reminder of your commitment to care. Ask your child to let you know if you forget one of the rules. Never reprimand your child when he or she gives you this feedback.

 

Dear Mom and Dad, I’m just a kid, so please . . .

  1. Do not talk badly about my other parent. (This makes me feel torn apart! It also makes me feel bad about myself!)
  2. Do not talk badly about my other parent’s friends or relatives. (Let me care for someone even if you don’t.)
  3. Do not talk about the “divorce” or other grown up stuff. (This makes me feel sick. Please leave me out of it!)
  4. Do not talk about child support. (This makes me feel guilty or like I’m a possession instead of your kid.)
  5. Do not make me feel bad when I enjoy my time with my other parent. (This makes me afraid to tell you things.)
  6. Do not block my visits or prevent me from speaking to my other parent on the phone. (This makes me very upset.)
  7. Do not interrupt my time with my parent by calling too much or by planning activities during our time together.
  8. Do not argue in front of me or on the phone when I can hear you! (This just turns my stomach inside out!)
  9. Do not ask me to spy for you when I am at my other parent’s home. (This makes me feel disloyal and dishonest!)
  10. Do not ask me to keep secrets from my other parent. (Secrets make me feel anxious!)
  11. Do not ask me questions about my other parent’s life or about our time together. (This makes me uncomfortable. So just let me tell you.)
  12. Do not give me verbal messages to deliver to my other parent. (I end up feeling real anxious about their reaction. So please just call them, leave them a message at work or put a note into the mail.)
  13. Do not send written messages with me or place them into my bag. (This also makes me uncomfortable.)
  14. Do not blame my other parent for the divorce or for things that go wrong in your life. (This really feels terrible! I end up wanting to defend them from your attack. Sometimes it makes me feel sorry for you and that makes me want to protect you. I just want to be a kid, so please, please . . . stop putting me into the middle!)
  15. Do let me take items to my other home as long as I can carry them back and forth. (Otherwise it feels like you are treating me like a possession.)
  16. Do realize that I have two homes not just one. (It doesn’t matter how much time I spend there.)
  17. Do not treat me like an adult, it causes way too much stress for me. (Please find a friend or therapist to talk with.)
  18. Do not ignore my other parent or sit on opposite sides of the room during my school or sports activities. (This makes me very sad. Please act like parents and be friendly, even if it is just for me.)
  19. Do not use guilt to pressure me to love you more, and do not ask me where I want to live.
  20. Do let me love both of you and see each of you as much as possible! Be flexible even when it is not part of our regular schedule.

Thanks, your loving child

Filed Under: Children, Divorce Tagged With: divorce, exercises, parents

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  • Sample Voir Dire Questions and Sample Jury Charge – Custody August 6, 2014
  • The Marital Estate: Community Debts May 2, 2014
  • Divorce Myth: Courts Often Do Not Divide Property 50/50 March 28, 2014
  • Special Appearances: Personal Jurisdiction in Divorce March 7, 2014

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